She's Got A Way
Thank-you to Mike Cope for this reminder.
http://www.preachermike.com/
Certainly, Heidi and I fit the description.....with two very socially active kids, ball schedules, my work travel, etc., etc., etc. we can sometimes slip into a near "marital coma" and lose sight of each other. Never in a hateful, negative way.....we ALWAYS remain kind and appreciative of each other's efforts (she of course, better at this than I....but, hey, we are talking about a man and a woman here.....). But rather, just a numbness, and maybe somewhat of a thinking that "hey...we only have x number of years before the kids are out of the house and then we can have time together, alone!" But we both have seen how this can be a dangerous trade-off.....having known people who always put-off doing the right things for themselves as a couple waiting for that day in the future, only to have illness, or even loss take that away at the end.
We try to get time away as a couple to revitalize ourselves and our marriage, but for a variety of reasons, have not been able to make this a routine. As the kids get older, we at least can now go out for a movie/dinner with some regularity without needing to arrange for sitters, etc. This has been a blessing. We are taking walks together, both to try to get a bit healthier, but equally to have at least those few minutes of time to debrief at the end of the day. This is a blessing. We talk on the phone/e-mail throughout the day to keep tabs on each other and who is going where and who needs picked up when. This is a blessing.
All this has made me remember back to the early days of our relationship. Back when we sent song lyrics to each other. We were big Billy Joel fans back in the day......and this is one of the songs that makes me think of what Heidi means to me. After 19 years of marriage, she's not only Still the One, but also Still has a Way!
She's Got A WaySongs In The Attic Released: 1981
She's got a way about her
I don't know what it is
But I know that I can't live without her
She's got a way of pleasin'
I don't know what it is
But there doesn't have to be a reason anyway
She's got a smile that heals me
I don't know why it is
But I have to laugh when she reveals me
She's got a way of talkin'
I don't know why it is
But it lifts me up when we are walkin' anywhere
She comes to me when I'm feelin' down
Inspires me without a sound
She touches me and I get turned around
She's got a way of showin'
How I make her feel
And I find the strength to keep on goin'
She's got a light around her
And ev'rywhere she goes
A million dreams of love surround her ev'rywhere
She comes to me when I'm feelin' down
Inspires me without a sound
She touches me and I get turned around
She's got a smile that heals me
I don't know why it is
But I have to laugh when she reveals me
She's got a way about her
I don't know what it is,
But I know that I can't live without her anyway
http://www.preachermike.com/
Certainly, Heidi and I fit the description.....with two very socially active kids, ball schedules, my work travel, etc., etc., etc. we can sometimes slip into a near "marital coma" and lose sight of each other. Never in a hateful, negative way.....we ALWAYS remain kind and appreciative of each other's efforts (she of course, better at this than I....but, hey, we are talking about a man and a woman here.....). But rather, just a numbness, and maybe somewhat of a thinking that "hey...we only have x number of years before the kids are out of the house and then we can have time together, alone!" But we both have seen how this can be a dangerous trade-off.....having known people who always put-off doing the right things for themselves as a couple waiting for that day in the future, only to have illness, or even loss take that away at the end.
We try to get time away as a couple to revitalize ourselves and our marriage, but for a variety of reasons, have not been able to make this a routine. As the kids get older, we at least can now go out for a movie/dinner with some regularity without needing to arrange for sitters, etc. This has been a blessing. We are taking walks together, both to try to get a bit healthier, but equally to have at least those few minutes of time to debrief at the end of the day. This is a blessing. We talk on the phone/e-mail throughout the day to keep tabs on each other and who is going where and who needs picked up when. This is a blessing.
All this has made me remember back to the early days of our relationship. Back when we sent song lyrics to each other. We were big Billy Joel fans back in the day......and this is one of the songs that makes me think of what Heidi means to me. After 19 years of marriage, she's not only Still the One, but also Still has a Way!
She's Got A WaySongs In The Attic Released: 1981
She's got a way about her
I don't know what it is
But I know that I can't live without her
She's got a way of pleasin'
I don't know what it is
But there doesn't have to be a reason anyway
She's got a smile that heals me
I don't know why it is
But I have to laugh when she reveals me
She's got a way of talkin'
I don't know why it is
But it lifts me up when we are walkin' anywhere
She comes to me when I'm feelin' down
Inspires me without a sound
She touches me and I get turned around
She's got a way of showin'
How I make her feel
And I find the strength to keep on goin'
She's got a light around her
And ev'rywhere she goes
A million dreams of love surround her ev'rywhere
She comes to me when I'm feelin' down
Inspires me without a sound
She touches me and I get turned around
She's got a smile that heals me
I don't know why it is
But I have to laugh when she reveals me
She's got a way about her
I don't know what it is,
But I know that I can't live without her anyway
posted by Paul W at 7:43 AM
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